Ego-Centric Universe

I feel like there's so much to focus on in this novel, choosing one passage when every one is so detailed and rich with clues and emotions is hard, but i find the idea of trying to escape our natural ego-centric universe fascinating. I've always thought about exactly what we've talked about in class for weeks, just how do you get to REALLY know someone else without losing yourself? It seems impossible until you enter a world such as literature where authors such as Wolf allow multiple points of view and the true "delving into" of multiple persons brains. Any person who walks by on the street Wolf will follow with her writing. Is this to know more about yourself (clarissa) or to really know more about that person. Clarissa claims to have a connection with people, as she does with Peter. Is she someone who can really complete that defeated cycle of REALLY getting to know someone or is she jsut like the rest of us, puzzled by the frustrating reality that we can NEVER get past that point? This brings me to the point of is Clarissa normal? Are the events happening in this day of her life simply normal for her or everyone else going on around her or is this special? Is the small fraction of her life we get to witness not available at any other time? Does this allow us to better get to see who Clarissa really is and perhaps go beyond that point? Honestly, I dont know. I dont know what to think because my own urge to truly know someone else as well as they know themselves is so great, but can never be achieved. It makes me doubt our knowledge of ourselves? Arent we a part of everything/everyone? Without really knowing them can we really know ourselves? Or is this all we ever get? this frustration of never knowing what we dont know?